Ephesians 5:25-26 (The Message) 25 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. 26 Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her.
I lost my first wife in a car accident back in 2003. Since then I have re-married and I have an amazing marriage. In fact my marriage is so good that one day I asked God why. God said, "It's because she knows you love her". I then realized that as the Scripture above says, "my words evoke her beauty. Everything I do and say is designed to bring the best of her".
When my first wife died I laid on the ground beside her waiting for emergency crews. The very first thought that came to my mind was how she didn't know how much I loved her. When I re-married I made a point of asking the Lord to help me make sure my new wife knows that I love her. It was this request that brought me to understand that love produces love.
Having a connection with God and asking for His strength in our marriage has made His love flow naturally in our marriage. The Bible says in 1 John 4:19 (New Living Translation), "We love each other because he loved us first." Most of us have heard the expression "you reap what you sow". When you sow love into your marriage you will reap love. I can't help but to see her beauty and I know without any doubt that she gives me her best.
We have been married a while now and as cliché as it sounds, our love for each other grows even more powerful as time goes on. Having a strong marriage gives you strength to face any challenge that life can throw at you. Love is a very powerful force and it should start with the husband. The husband is meant to be a source of strength in a marriage.